How to Network as an Introvert

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How to Network as an Introvert 05 Jul, 2025 Why I am writing this?Sometimes I’d leave an event unsure if I connected with anyone—or if anyone noticed I was there. I’d show up, blend in, talk just enough, smile just enough, and then disappear. The next morning, I’d wonder if anyone even remembered I was there. This is what often happens to introverts trying to network. It’s not that we lack social skills. It’s that we’re playing the game without a system that fits our wiring. I’m writing this blog as a reminder — a checklist for myself or anyone who relates — for the next professional gathering, party, or group event. A guide on what I now plan to do differently, step by step. Before we begin: credit to the book How to Talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes, which gave me this structure. Before the event: shrink the unknownsWalking into a room is easier when your nervous system isn’t in overdrive. Start with basics. Eat before you go. Most events are light on food and heavy on overstimulation. Being full helps you stay present, not preoccupied. Add one small item to what you're wearing that gives others something to comment on. It’s called a “Whatzit.” A pin, a vintage shirt, a random book in your hand. People need an excuse to start a conversation—give them one. Scan the news for 2 minutes. You don’t need to be a genius, but it keeps you from blanking out when someone says, “Did you see what happened today?” This isn’t about having talking points. It’s about removing friction. Lastly, go over the Six-Point Party Checklist: Who’s going? When do you want to arrive? What’s the vibe? Why are you attending? Where is it exactly? How are you getting back? These simple questions give structure to an evening that often feels like chaos. The moment you enter: control your signalThe most overlooked part of networking is the first 5 seconds. People scan you quickly and assign a story. You can shape that story. Stand still in the doorway.Look around. Not like you're lost—like you're ass...