Things I want to say to my boss

Summary

I’m sitting down to write this in a gap between jobs. The downtime is strange, like the world has stopped moving but my thoughts haven’t caught up. Other than replaying the shit that went down during the last six months – or to put it more bluntly, the reasons I left, I don’t quite know what to do with myself.What happened wasn’t unique. And that’s the part that bothers me most. It’s the same stuff I hear from friends, colleagues, people I trust across the industry.I know this is anonymous, but if you think this is about you, then I hope you do your team a favour and listen.It’s the performance of ‘care’ from leadership. Saying one thing loudly and proudly, yet doing another quietly, repeatedly.I know this is anonymous, but if you think this is about you, then I hope you do your team a favour and listen.The things I wish I could sayYou can’t fake care. People feel it. In small moments, in the gaps between your words, in the way you prioritise your business over their wellbeing. Care is a practice, not a performance. If you only care when outsiders are watching, you’re just performing. Communication isn’t optional or a one-way thing. Consistency and honesty build trust. Inconsistency and silence destroy it. If you communicate more externally than with your team, your culture will break down slowly over time. Ideas stop being shared because “what’s the point?” It’s not like you’re really listening. Meetings become quieter because speaking up feels risky. Colleagues start shrinking, not because their talent fades, but because the space to use it gets narrower.I hope you learn that leadership is more than LinkedIn posts and conference talks. It’s the day-to-day choices you make when nobody’s applauding.Burnout isn’t a sign of commitment, it’s a sign of organisational failure. If your best people are exhausted, withdrawn, or like shadows of who they once were, that’s not a resource problem. That’s a You problem.By the time you notice a culture is broken, the damage has a...