Could GPT help with dating anxiety?

Summary

[Like everything else on this blog—but perhaps even more so—this post represents my personal views, not those of UT Austin or OpenAI] Since 2015, depressed, isolated, romantically unsuccessful nerdy young guys have regularly been emailing me, asking me for sympathy, support, or even dating advice. This past summer, a particularly dedicated such guy even trolled my comment section—plausibly impersonating real people, and causing both them and me enormous distress—because I wasn’t spending more time on “incel” issues. (I’m happy to report that, with my encouragement, this former troll is now working to turn his life around.) Many others have written to share their tales of woe. From one perspective, that they’d come to me for advice is insane. Like … dating advice from … me? Having any dating life at all was by far the hardest problem I ever needed to solve; as a 20-year-old, I considered myself far likelier to prove P≠NP or explain the origin of consciousness or the Born rule. Having solved the problem for myself only by some miracle, how could I possibly help others? But from a different perspective, it makes sense. How many besides me have even acknowledged that the central problem of these guys’ lives is a problem? While I have to pinch myself to remember, these guys look at me and see … unlikely success. Somehow, I successfully appealed the world’s verdict that I was a freakish extraterrestrial: one who might look human and seem friendly enough to those friendly to it, and who no doubt has some skill in narrow technical domains like quantum computing, and who could perhaps be suffered to prove theorems and tell jokes, but who could certainly, certainly never interbreed with human women. And yet I dated. I had various girlfriends, who barely suspected that I was an extraterrestrial. The last of them, Dana, became my fiancée and then my wife. And now we have two beautiful kids together. If I did all this, then there’d seem to be hope for the desperate guys who emai...